Going to Miami... Welcome to Miami (Can you hear Will Smith?)

I haven’t been on blogger in foreverrrrr…well 2 weeks but still. Oh, btw, I am going to the Orange Bowl BABY! Miami- 1 week over the Orange Bowl, New Years, and my birthday. I’m so excited but dreading the drive. This weekend, my GPS arrived and I am in good hands. I wish there was a ‘don’t take me to the hood’ option on it though. Miami is rough parts or so I hear. We are actually staying in Boca Raton though. I’m so excited to go down there and root the Bearcats to a victory against the Virginia Tech Hokies! It’s going to be awesome! 60 degree weather in January and watching FOOTBALL! How amazing! Misty called me this afternoon and over talking I realized that she didn’t have enough money to give her daughters a good Christmas which made me feel soooo crappy about buying a $350 blackberry that I did not need. I am in the works of making sure that she has a great Christmas though. It’s funny – she’s in what most would call a toxic relationship with the father of her 2 daughters who seems to have an addiction problem. Addiction to what you ask? Anything. Addictions change but if you have that personality- you have that personality and he does. Just like Chris, Laurens boyfriend. After years of them fighting and him treating her like absolute shit, I got mad and broke ties with him and thus strained my relationship with my best friend of 10 years. I wanted to be the supportive friend who would always be there for her…but I could not support her going back to him AGAIN. I just couldn’t watch it and I didn’t want him anywhere near me. Lauren and I will probably never be the same and I have to deal with my decision to go that route. However, there is a difference in my disgust of Chris and my wavering interpretation of Randy (Misty’s boyfriend). Now they both suffer the same issues, and maybe it’s because there are children involved, but I am rooting for Misty and Randy to make it work and I’m definitely hoping that Chris and Lauren don’t work out and she’ll finally open her eyes and be done. Is it because of their children? Is it because I see the crap between Lauren and Chris more often than Randy and Misty? I don’t know. But I found it odd in our conversation that in many ways the best friend of my past and the best friend of my current are both dealing with these similar situations and I have such different strong feelings about both of them. I really need to analyze this further. But not here. Not now.

Oh Richard left a note in my car today on my airfreshner that said ‘I love you’. It made me all warm inside. This weekend was a drag. I was stressed out to the max on so many levels. Last Wednesday Richard was sick. On Friday I came down with the identical bug. And then Ethan has it today. It’s terrible. I hate this season; sad and gloomy and dreary and sick. Argh.

Holiday weekend...end scene.

Thanksgiving was great. The shopping was fantastic. Being with family, good food, etc, etc... but the BIG EAST CHAMPIONSHIP TROPHY was clearly the highlight of my weekend. It was exciting, emotional, triumphant... and all of the things that college football should be. Now we should be Miami bound for the Orange bowl which unfortunately because of forces beyond my control, I am not able to go which bums me out like you couldn't even believe.

Still, we'll have a big BCS party and it will be great for those who stayed behind. Oh and Ohio State is also going to a BCS bowl. Ick. I really wanted to be Ohio's ONLY BCS team this year. And it looks like Notre Dame might be getting rid of Weis because Let's face it Notre Dame looks TERRIBLE... and word is that Brian Kelly is numero uno on their list. I know that he's Number 1 for the fans at least that what the boards/blogs seem to indicate. I've always hated ND but I think Kelly did a great job here and who can blame a guy for taking a 50% increase in pay? I can't. Plus ND is his dream job so it would be such a let down for Cincinnati, but understandable in reality. Plus, UC would then become a GREAT looking prospect for other coaches. I think Mike Thomas would make the right decision too.

Lauren went to the game and because of some internal turmoil that she's dealing with was very quiet. It's hard to see your best friend make a decision that you know will hurt her time and time again. Of course, after I finally put my foot down, she felt it necessary to repeat all of my (many, many) mistakes I've made and how she never put me down or told me I was making bad decisions.

All I could say was, 'You should have. A good friend does. You should have shaken me out of the funk and said 'listen dude, you're screwing up your life!' So that's what I'm trying to do for her. I know that with Love you have to let people make the mistakes and learn. But there comes a turning point when you say to yourself, 'this may be the mistake that ruins her life! That makes her cry again and again! And there's nothing I can do but watch her as it happens?!' I'm not good at consoling people after breakups. I suck at it. So I cant' really know what to say but I just... Im hurting to see her hurt so much. I want it to stop.

Anyway enough of my babble. After the game, I went to Shanna's and we put up her Christmas tree and George made a great dinner. I really got to spend a lot of time with my friends this weekend which is awesome.

I have a million projects I need to work on and all I really want to do is blog. Maybe I'll be back later after I dive into this pile of stuff to do.